“The architecture of how we live our lives is badly in need of renovation and repair. What we really value is out of sync with how we live our lives. And the need is urgent for some new blueprints to reconcile the two.” Arianna Huffington
I recently came across a fantastic post by Guy Kawasaki on LinkedIn about stopping the glorification of busy. AND I’M TOTES DOWN WITH THAT. Thought you might be too.
This is the reposted list from Guy’s LinkedIn article, where he’s reviewed Arianna Huffington’s new book Thrive: The Third Metric to Redefining Success and Creating a Life of Well-being, Wisdom, and Wonder. Check out what Guy and Arianna have to say…
Here are ten tips from Arianna and Thrive for creating a life of well-being, wisdom, and wonder:
1. Redefine success.There’s no prize for working the most hours per week or making the most money. At the end of our lives, we’re all about the same amount of dust, so the question is how much joy you’ve brought into people’s lives and how much have you made the world a better place
2. Avoid burnout. Burnout, stress, and depression are worldwide problems. At Arianna’s Third Metric conference in 2013, she learned that burnout is not only affecting Americans but also workers in Germany, the United Kingdom, China, and the rest of the world. Working harder doesn’t necessarily mean better results – in fact it can have the exact opposite effect.
3. Nurture your well-being. Make time to take care of yourself in terms of exercise, meditation, music, art, and family life – this isn’t selfishness, it’s good sense. (KL – in fact, it’s self preservation, and necessary for your physical and mental wellness in order to be a good business person, partner, parent and friend. Because in the words of Brené Brown – ‘You can’t give what you don’t have.’)
4. Sleep your way to the top. Get more sleep. Not getting enough sleep is associated with health risks and higher stress levels. Every element of your life can be improved by getting the proper amount of sleep. (KL – sleep deprivation is a form of torture for a reason. Don’t do it to yourself!)
5. Take a digital detox. We all see the people in restaurants spending their time focused on a screen instead of the faces in front of them. When’s the last time you turned off the cellphone and focused 100% on the people you’re with? Challenge yourself and your loved ones to turn off the digital interruptions. The email will be there when you turn your phone back on.
6. Keep learning. We learn many of our life lessons from our parents, relationships with our spouse, and our children. We may not have appreciated or understood all the lessons our parents shared but remembering the advice can shed light on a difficult challenge you’re facing. Learning shouldn’t stop when you’re out of school-indeed, that’s when learning may truly begin. (KL – That ‘s why I run events!)
7. Listen to your inner voice. Have you ever had a hunch about something, ignored it and in retrospect you knew that you should have followed it? We all have. The next time this happens, listen to your gut feelings and be in touch with the perspective of your own thoughts.
8. Act like a child. Spend time with your kids, grandkids, nieces and nephews and see life through their eyes at a museum or art gallery. Take a trip to your bucket list location that you’ve always wanted to see. Every action doesn’t have to advance your ability to earn money or exercise power.
9. Find solitude. Meditation helps relieve stress and helps us tap our inner voice. If you don’t like being with yourself, how can you expect others to like being with you? Many of my best ideas have come to me when I am driving alone. I’ve often thought that my creativity has declined because I do not take long drives as often! (KL – my place is the shower. Thank goodness the drought is over!)
10. Give back to your community. Being a compassionate person and helping others can help solve some of society’s biggest problems. Find a way that you can share your unique talents or time with a local shelter, an elderly home, or at your children’s school.
Every day I find myself trying to embrace at least a few things on this list. I’m actually now very mindful about saying ‘I’m busy’. Because I don’t want to be ‘busy’ – I want to be happily skipping towards my dreams, I want to feel like I have space in my life for the things that matter, I want to have openness to invite new possibilities, I want energy to create a life that I love not that I feel overwhelmed by, I want to be in the moment for my family, and I want to be kind to myself.
I don’t want to be the crazy busy lady, but it’s not easy. So it’s mindfulness of my words, actions, priorities and values. And then consistent small steps away from busy, toward calm graceful joy sprinkled with moments of utter messy chaos (rather than the other way around). #tomorrowstartstoday #choosecourage