This humble tool is one of the most powerful tools I use in my business, and that I use with clients. Because unless you can see your time laid out in front of you, you can’t make realistic plans, set achievable goals or get everyone aligned about what needs to be done, and by when.
I use this tool with my executive coaching clients to help them plan out an ideal week, and understand what’s achievable with their time. I use it with my content marketing clients to map out content plans, deadlines and publishing dates. I use it with my business clients to help them and their team see what needs to be done, and when by so they all get on the same page, literally. Read more…
In this year’s Days of Possible Diary, I created a provocation in the opening pages that prompted kin to ponder when they have chosen courage in their lives. As we’re nearly halfway through the year, I’m revisiting the provocations. Remembering times in my life when I have been courageous before (even in the tiniest of ways), helps me keeping being courageous when I’m in the presence of doubt, fear and self-criticism. Because the thing about courage is that it isn’t comfortable. It’s an act of vulnerability. There is no act of courage that doesn’t involve the risk, uncertainty and emotional exposure of vulnerability.
“You can be courageous or comfortable, but never both at the same time.” – Brené Brown
Courage is a heart word
The word ‘courage’ is derived from the Latin word for heart (cor), and it originally meant to tell the story of who you are with your whole heart. So I’m offering you some extra journaling prompts to ponder on courage as we dive into the second half of 2018, and continuing writing our story. Grab your favourite notebook, pour a cup of tea and dig in. x
When was the last time you did something courageous? Even in a tiny way?
What were thinking at the time?
How does courage feel in your body?
How do you experience fear? How does fear hold you back?
Remembering your courage
When have you felt afraid, yet chosen to act?
When have you doubted yourself, and tried anyway?
When have you followed your heart?
When have you persisted in the face of adversity?
When have you stood up for what was right?
When have you let go of the familiar and expanded your horizons?
When have you faced suffering with dignity?
When have you failed to show courage and regretted it?
How might your life be different if you had more courage?
In what areas of your life would you like to have more courage right now?
If I could give you a mega dose of courage, what would you do?
What one action could you take that would move you forward?
What’s stopping you from taking that action?
Who can you ask for help and moral support? When will you ask them?
What will happen if you don’t make a decision or if you do?
“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s courage”- Anaïs Nin
I once heard the saying ‘no plan survives its impact with reality.’ And nothing could be truer when you’re taking a leap. For all the plans you might make (and I’m a BIG advocate of plans), you will get thrown curveballs. But perhaps a Multiple Sclerosis diagnosis is one of the least you might expect. Read more…
If I asked you to write about what a typical day a year from now would look like, what would you write? Would you happily scribe more of the same as what you’re doing now? Or would you like it to be different? How would you spend your day? Who would you spend it with? What would you be doing? How would you be feeling? It was being asked these questions and writing down her answers that prompted Fiona Killackey to start planning her corporate escape to start her fantastic coaching and consulting business, My Daily Business Coach.
As part of the plan, she wrote down the names of 62 people she could reach out to build a client pipeline. Before she lept she had four months of work lined up, helping ease the fear of leaving a corporate salary behind. She leveraged her existing knowledge and connections to build a new way forward. Read more…
If I asked you the question what comes first – success or happiness? – many people would say success. That only once we’re successful we’ll be happy. One of our cultural narratives is ‘the harder I work, the more successful I’ll be, and the more successful I’ll be, the happier I’ll be.’
But what I’ve learned is that’s a trap. I felt it intuitively before I made my own leap, and then had it backed by up positive psychologist Shawn Achor in one of my all-time favourite TED Talks called The Happy Secret To Better Work. As he explains: Read more…
The media has the power to profoundly influence our personal beliefs, community-mindedness, political agendas and power structures. So influential are media owners, they sway elections, make or break careers and shape what we talk about, care about and vote on. We rely on the thoughts, opinions and integrity of others to help inform our own thoughts, opinions and integrity. This is the very reason why media diversity and independence matters.
Georgina ‘George’ McEnroe is the phenomenal woman behind Shebah, the Australian, all-female rideshare service. Think of it as lady Uber – owned by a woman, recruiting only women drivers and only taking women passengers and children. As a single mum of four kids, George created the service she needed, and in doing so created an economic platform, transport infrastructure and social support network needed by others too. Launched on International Women’s Day 2017, Shebah honours the particular needs of women and children to move through the world safely. Read more…
Even when you’re working in a field that’s aligned with your purpose, career trajectories don’t always go to plan. Pivots are going to be necessary. Loretta Bolotin studied international development earning her jobs in the humanitarian sector across the world. At the age of 24 she also became mama to Koan, and a juggled a full-time job working in gender justice in The Hague. As you’ll read, Loretta believed that this would give her right balance of career, purpose and parenting.
While husband Daniel became the primary carer for their son, ironically the human rights organisation Loretta was working for offered very limited flexibility for working parents (and not even a breastfeeding facility!), and delivered a punishing workload to boot. The reality of ‘balance’ didn’t measure up, and Loretta sharpened her sense of what really mattered in her life. And change needed to happen. Read more…
There’s no doubt that David Bowie was one of the world’s most exciting and creative artists of our time. He defied what was, and redefined what was possible. A perennial leap taker, entertainer and creative wizard. These are my most favourite of his words: Read more…
Grief, after all, is the price we pay for love… Grief is a normal and healthy experience after loss. But so is resilience. Over the years an interesting change in grief therapy has been the emphasis on resilience; the awareness that people normally find healthy ways to adapt and live with loss. That’s not to say it’s a quick and easy task. It’s not that grieving suddenly ends and the person forgets and moves on. No, what happens is that a weight that initially feels unbearable becomes, in time, manageable. The grief becomes compact enough, with the hard edges removed, to be gently placed in one’s heart. – Momento Mori by David Malham, Grief Therapist, diagnosed with ALS/Motor Neurone Disease, for the New York Times
Recently I was working with a coaching client, and I asked him to describe the kind of work he’d like to be doing in twelve months time. Very quickly he fell into the trap of thinking about the kind of ‘job’ he ‘could move into’, rather than the kinds of activities that felt energising and meaningful. He got stuck and said, ‘I can’t really describe it. What I’m thinking doesn’t exist.’ When I consciously pulled him back from naming a job title, to exploring ways of working, he quickly listed all the types of activities and qualities of those activities that he was drawn to. This did three things: 1. He gave himself permission to think outside of a known, defined job title; 2. He consciously thought about what he would like to do, rather than what he had always done; 3. It opened up a discussion about what he felt he deserved and what he could create. We disrupted his existing thoughts by imagining what could be. It was an invitation to innovate his working life. Read more…